Thursday, February 28, 2019

My Little Brother Trayvon

Disclaimer: I am not actually Trayvon's older brother.  To my knowledge, we aren't related in any way, but the tragic loss of his life has had a tremendous effect on me.

His death felt like losing the little brother i never had and I wanted to write something to honor his memory.  To my knowledge my depiction of him is fairly accurate based on the accounts i've read about him and his life.  Please forgive me for any inaccuracies.

Rest in peace, little brother.
My little brother Trayvon was always fiddling with something.  He loved mechanical things and always wanted to figure out how things worked.  He especially loved airplane mechanics and dreamed of one day becoming an airplane pilot or at least an airplane mechanic.

He got in trouble in school a few times, but overall he was a good kid.  He tended to keep to himself a lot and avoided gangs or other "bad" kids.  He got caught with a joint once, but that wasn't all that rare for a kid his age.  He was always joking around, but didn't really seek the spotlight.  He had a quiet, yet quick sense of humor which all who knew him really loved about him.  We all thought he had a bright future because he was so bright.

When my family and i found out he had been shot, we were in shock.  What in the world could he be doing that would put him in that kind of danger?  Was he secretly running around with a bad crew?  Did he have some bad habits we didn't know about?  How could the kid we knew so well be mixed up in anything that would get him shot?

Thursday, June 28, 2018

Gay My Way: A Pride Story + Rex + Fortune Cookie Wisdom

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Gay My Way: A Pride Story


So i've not really posted much about Pride Month this month mostly because of so many other things going on, but also because i wasn't quite sure what to write. After a bit of reflection I have decided to write about a book I just finished reading called Toughskins by William Masswa because it's the first book i've read that truly captures my sense of my own sexuality.

Before i start talking about the book, I just want to shed a little more light on my journey of self-discovery. From an early age, i was into wrestling. There was always something so appealing and satisfying to me about going toe to toe with another guy in a battle for dominance, but to be truthful, i never wanted to "win".  I always wanted to be at the mercy of my opponent which didn't make sense to me until i was old enough to understand what was really happening... it turned me on!

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

How Do You 'Roo Part One- My First Bonnaroo Experience + Where Are The Girls? + Fortune Cookie Wisdom

My First Bonnaroo Experience

"What the he!! is a Bonnaroo?!" i'm sure i was asking myself in some form or fashion back in 2002.  Sure i had been to multiple Dave Matthews Band concerts and a few other shows at that point in my life, then a spry 24-year old man, but at the time i couldn't have even imagined what i was getting myself into.  All i knew was my friends were pumped about it and that's all i needed to know.

Friday, June 1, 2018

How Do You Flu? + The Thirst Is Real + OTM + Fortune Cookie Wisdom

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How Do You Flu?

So i was under the weather all week last week and let me tell you, there seems to be no cure for the summertime flu!  I really thought i had escaped what had been billed the worst flu season in years unscathed.  Nope!

Although there still may be no cure for the flu, there are a few remedies that i have tried over the years that seem to help me get over the flu in the most efficient way possible.  Feel free to try any, all or none of these if you ever find your suffering with the symptoms of the flu.

**Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional nor have i received any formal or informal medical training.  The following are only meant for edutainment purposes and to give a glimpse into how one random dude manages a common illness.


First things first is knowing the difference between the flu, a cold and seasonal allergies.  The biggest tell is fever.  If you've ever had the sniffles, or can't seem to stop coughing or sneezing, but don't have a fever, most likely you've got a cold or are suffering from allergies.  I get it, been there too!  If the above are accompanied by chills, muscle ache, fatigue and yes a fever (100 degrees or higher), you probably have the flu.  Check out this link for more details on how to self-diagnose the flu.

Remedy 1- The "Flu"ids

The Thirst Is Real

I drink a lot when i'm sick.  No, i don't mean alcohol, i mean pretty much everything else.  Just about every other liquid other than alcohol is fair game when you have the flu although water, juices and tea (with lemon and honey!) are probably the best options.  Sports drinks are okay, but don't over do it and the same goes for things like "Emergen C".  The key is just staying hydrated so keep the fluids flowing.

Pro Tip: Throw in a hot toddy or two into your hydration strategy.  Although alcohol isn't generally good for recovering from illness, in moderation, it can help you sleep a little bit better.

Tuesday, February 27, 2018

Today in Black History: The Hoodie Culture

The Hoodie Culture

I wasn't always a member of the hoodie culture.  In fact, i didn't own a hoodie for many years never really considering them "my style."  And then i started working for a company where almost everyone wore hoodies at some point or another.  It's amazing to me how quickly i acclimated to this stylistic preference soon having 3-4 hoodies in my regular wardrobe rotation.

And then brother Trayvon Martin was killed wearing a hoodie on his way home from the store late the evening of February 26th, 2012 in Sanford, Florida.  I couldn't believe this young man would be gunned down so senselessly because he had the audacity to walk through a quiet suburban neighborhood.  The hoodie made him look suspicious George Zimmerman would later claim as he defended his indefensible actions that night.  Although Trayvon was unarmed, he apparently still presented a threat to the armed Zimmerman and therefore had to pay the ultimate price of his life.

George Zimmerman was later acquitted for his crime on the basis of self-defense and Florida's "Stand Your Ground" laws and i was fearful that we as a society had crossed into dangerous territory.  How could someone claiming self-defense shoot an unarmed kid and get away with it?!  Had we as a society just condoned the murder of a young man for being black and wearing a hoodie in the wrong neighborhood?  Did this mean all black men should fear for their lives for wearing the wrong clothing in the wrong neighborhood?